How can avoiding your goal for a few days, actually make you way more productive in the long run?
By taking the time to focus on where it is you want to go, and visualizing the path to get there you will be in much better shape to begin your journey. A journey of a thousand miles does begin with one step…it’s also helpful if that step is in the right direction.
You can get from here to somewhere by wondering around, you’re bound to end up somewhere! That’s what I had been doing for many of the first years of my professional life. I knew I wanted to do so much with my printing company. I was so excited to grow the company…I spent numerous hours working on models to scale it…all without a road map. I was trying to get to the promised land by hacking my way through a dense forest without even a horse ride on. Hard work was what it took to become successful, and BOY was I working hard.
That’s when I realized I needed a game plan. I learned I first needed to know where I was going: What does my perfect life look like? Money in the bank, healthy meals cooked at home on the table, and plenty of face time pre-schooling my daughter. I wanted all this while having time to keep up the house and earn an income working part-time online.
I went through the following steps and came up with a plan to get where I wanted to be.
Here’s what you do:
#1 Describe in detail the future you want and the what the decorations look like.
Where are you are living? What do you do to earn money? What do you do to relax? What kind of car do you drive? What do you do in your free time?
Now imagine yourself doing these things. Imagine driving into the driveway in your car. What are you listening to? What’s for dinner?
Now, when you are present in your dream, ask yourself, “What did you do to go from where you are now (in your current situation), to where you are in the dream situation?”
#2 What 50 things did you do to get where you are?
“What did I do to succeed?” Ask this of your future self. Write down everything that comes to mind. After getting at least 50 ideas, look over your list and circle the top 10 things you need to be doing each day and week to become the success you see in your mind’s eye. You may need to meditate or pray about this. If ideas are not coming to you, really REALLY become quiet. Listen to yourself. Are you second guessing your dream? Are you hearing voices of negativity? Set it all aside. When I first wanted to become a blogger, I was also just becoming a Christian. It worried me because I thought becoming a Christian was going to mean sacrifice of all hope of happiness. Not true, a study of the Bible on “desires of the heart”, reveals that not only does God provide the desires of the heart; but focusing on Him, will lead you to the path he has created for you. A path that is filled with your own happiness.
Proverbs 3:6 – In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths. For more quotes from the Bible on this topic visit: https://www.kingjamesbibleonline.org/Bible-Verses-About-Desires-Of-Your-Heart/
If you are not a Christian, find quiet space and clear your mind.
If you find your mind is spinning with to many to-do lists you can’t get it to quiet down do a “brain dump” this is where you write down everything whirling around up there. No need to catagorize or make any decisions about it right now. Just get it all out of your head.
“Mind like water.” is the desired state for meditation or deep prayer.
#3 What do you need to start doing today?
When I first did this exercise, I was trying to work from home while still being a stay-at-home mom. I had let my other routines like menu planning and preschooling fall by the wayside and both were far overdue for a overhaul. I was ignoring the signs however and trying to stay focused on writing. I didn’t work. I didn’t get anything done, and had a house of unhappy family members at the same time. This is where I put a temporary stop on all projects. I backed up, set about to organize and automate these other two parts of my life.
When I came back to my office to read and write I was able to get way more done in less time!
Do you need to do this? Take a time-out from life and prioritize organization? Send the kids to your parents for the weekend or put a do-not-disturb sign on your office door. Come in on Sunday to the office so no one will bother you? Whatever it takes – take this time if you’re feeling like the world is spinning, and your not spinning right along with it. You may be trying to run the wrong direction.
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